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The New York Times - Unhitched: Divorce Column, launched 2013
   •   An Experiment in Polyamory 3/11/2023
   •   Divorce is hard, here's how you can help 1/19/2022
   •   After a painful split, a Functioning Family 12/1/2021
   •   The Paradox of Alimony for Men 10/30/2021
   •   Former Culinary Couple Thrives as a Blended Family 3/10/2021
   •   Challenged to Sustain Their Lifestyle 6/5/2020
   •   Pulled Apart by Addiction 1/27/2020 
   •   A Focus on Children - and Losing Each Other  12/10/2019 ​
   •   The Perfect Divorce 9/06/2019 
   •   It Takes What it Takes to End Something 6/24/2019 ​
   •   Divorce Advice (And it won't cost you a thing!) 4/24/2019 ​
   •   2 Divorce Lawyers, Better After Divorce, Still Together 1/03/2019 ​
​   •   Older, Wiser and Very Much in Love 12/04/2018  
   •   Life in the Bakery Led to Love, then Loss of Balance 2/25/2018
   •   Sparks of Love, Doused by Old Habits 2/22/2017
   •   The Same Arguments, Then Finally a New Direction 8/26/2016
   •   A Husband's Transgender Secret Takes Its Toll 1/7/2016
   •   A Couple Finds Instant Attraction, Longtime Love, then Discord 1/7/2016
   •   Marriage Equality Isn't Always Quality 10/27/2015
   •   Divorce Isn't an Option, Until it's Only One 4/3/2015
   •   Unraveling, In Slow Motion 11/7/2014

   •   Together on the Road to Divorce 8/15/12
   •   With Hindsight in the Rearview Mirror 5/2/2014
   •   On Money and Marriage 3/7/2014
   •   A Love Not Strong Enough to Climb Barriers 3/7/13
   •   In a Confrontation, a Secret is Revealed 1/16/2013
   •   When One Person Lives a Lie 1/23/2014
   •   Making it Last (a couple that stayed together!) 12/20/13
   •   Backing it Off Wanting All From a Spouse 11/14/13
   •   Lessons Learned When it's All Over  8/11/2013
   •   Disappointments in Happily Ever After 9/22/2013
   •   When Nest Emptied, Discontent Entered 11/10/2013

The New York Times - VOWS & Weddings

   •  VOWS: For Two College Students, A Person to Call Home 9/23/22
   •  VOWS: Some 42,934 Steps On the road to Love 7/15/22
   •  VOWS: Without Knowing It, Opening the Door to Romance 9/16/22
   •  VOWS: A Commitment to Each Other 5/27/2022​
   •  VOWS: The Cat's Approval Wins! 4/15/2021
   •  VOWS: Life as a pair began at a table for one! 12/17/2021
   •  VOWS: He Had Him at Howdy! 12/10/2021
   •  VOWS: Overcoming Disability and Finding Love 7/02/2021
   •  VOWS: SF City Hall "I Dos Echo" 7/14/2021
   •  VOWS: Shon Buford and Julia Mathis 6/24/2019
   •  VOWS: Brian Nicholson and Brooke Geahan 5/24/2019
   •  VOWS: George Arison and Robert Luo 3/22/2019
   •  VOWS: Dr. Eleni Greenwood and Sujay Jaswa 9/21/2018
   •  VOWS: Writing Their Own Stories,Together 3/16/2018
   •  VOWS: Why Wait? When you know, you know 1/28/2018
   •  VOWS: Betsy Wolfe Marries Her Best Friend 1/8/18
   •  VOWS: Don't Fall in Love with Me! 6/16/17
   •  VOWS: Finding Common Groundl! 5/5/17
   •  VOWS: Love Sets Sail! 11/13/16
   •  VOWS: Jennifer Alden and Kirk Spahn 5/13/16
   •  VOWS: Valerie Masten and Jon Bonne 8/23/15
   •  New Tools for Wedding Photographers 12/5/14
   •  VOWS: Finding Each Other Midlife 3/23/14
   •  State of the Unions: One more aboard the RV 1/2/2013
   •  VOWS: A Reluctant Bride Conquers Her Fears 12/27/13
   •  Gay and Lesbian Pre-nups: If Forever Doesn't Work Out 3/25/12
   •  Field Notes: Pursuing a New Path Down the Aisle 10/6/2013
   •  Lindsay Benner and Dan Das Mann: This one went everywhere! 6/21/2013
   •  VOWS: Past columns (click for various links)
    
The Washington Post Magazine:
   •  Clams for Nixon: In 1969, San Clemente gets its day in the sun, 
but for one local girl, the changes bring trouble

The Center for Investigative Reporting:
   •   Survivor of Your Black Muslim Bakery Speaks Out 8/2/2012 (multimedia)
            Public Television: Live interview and behind the story

The New York Times: Essays, Articles and Columns
   •  NYT Opinionator: Confessions of a Pebble Thief 3/3/2015
   •  NYT Travel: Lazy Bear in San Francisco 12/23/14
   •  Styles: Forever, the Girl with the Unicorn Tattoo 5/5/2013
   •  NYT Travel: Oakland, the new Brooklyn 4/8/2012
   •  Modern Love: My View from the Margins
   •  NYT Magazine Lives: Rent-A-Dog?
   •  NYT Magazine Lives: Hi, I'm Louisa. I Mean Eliza. I Mean Sam.
   •  Local Intel: International Bird Rescue
   •  Local Intel: Crossfit
   •  Local Intel: Children's Bell Tower
   •  Local Intel: Little Farm
   •  Local Intel: Samiramis Imports
   •  Local Intel: Nourse Auditorium
   •  Local Intel: Eichler's SF
   •  Local Intel: Sunol Water Temple
   •  Local Intel: SF Armory - Kink!
   •  Local Intel: Bulwinkleland
   •  Local Intel: East Bay Archery
   •  Local Intel: Earthquake Cottages
   •  Local Intel: It's a blimp? No!
   •  Local Intel: City Goats?
   •  Local Intel: Oakland Arts
   •  Local Intel: Salmon Sex
   •  Local Intel: Bimbo's?
   •  Local Intel: Community Gardens
   •  Local Intel: Tugboats?!
   •  Local Intel: St. Mary's Park
   •  Local Intel: SFO Noise Abatement Room
   •  Local Intel: Skate Stoppers
   •  Local Intel: Draline Tong Herbs
   •  Local Intel: Los Centzontles
   •  Local Intel: It's It  (yum)
   •  Local Intel: San Quentin Hobby Shop (bummer, now closed)
   •  Local Intel: Martinez Bocce Courts
   •  Local Intel: Kennedy Tunnel
   •  Local Intel: Sutro Tower
   •  Local Intel: Clarion Alley
   •  Local Intel: C & H Sugar Sign
   •  Local Intel: Oakland's Mormon Temple
   •  Local Intel: A Fish Story (one of my favorites)
   •  Local Intel: Fernandez Mansion
   •  Local Intel: City Hall Steps
   •  NYT Magazine Lives:  Rent-A-Dog: In Tokyo, love couldn't be bought.
   •  NYT Health: It's Never Too Late to Be a Surfer Chick\
   •  NYT Travel: 36 Hours, Berkeley, California
   •  NYT Opinion: Houses Too Clean for Comfort
   •  Signoff: Better to Have Loved and Lost...Maybe Not
   •  Lives: Dirty Laundry (The first NYT Magazine Lives column)
   •  NYT Travel: Secondhand Souvenirs

Bay Citizen/Center for Investigative Reporting 2012: An archive of columns on SF's most committed activists.
    
San Francisco Chronicle (current and archives):
Including On the Couch: A weekly column on Bay Area Couples, how they met, how they fell in love, the crazy world we live in. (2007-2012)
We Do: A Day of Love at City Hall (5/6/16)

The Boston Globe:
Where have all the artists gone? Provincetown is changing, some say for the worse.

Salon:
How to know if your dog is in pain? When it comes to suffering, what's too much for a pet? 5/26/15
Wanderlust: Adventures of My Youth: Can midlife travelers recapture our weird encounters of the past?
Camp Nostalgia: My favorite trips are repeats, but do I dare return to summer camp?

Tricycle Magazine:
A Yen For Cleaning: My time at a Japanese "spiritual" cleaning center


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